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Unpursued? Not

In reading the blog of another today, I was reminded of this study, our intent to post regularly, and my lack thereof. Before I allowed guilt to infuse my day, I considered the words I was reading and determined not to stress over creating content when I could borrow someone else’s words that so adequately summed up the purpose of this group. So, I reference segments of Elisabeth Corcoran’s recent article at

Have you ever looked in the mirror and not liked what you’ve seen?  Probably a universal feeling for most women, at least occasionally, and something that happened to Elisabeth prior to writing her blog entry. Her musings brought her to this realization – “I have never truly been pursued by a man. Which means I have never truly been known by a man. Which means I have never truly been loved by a man. Dang”

Not a happy moment, to be sure. And it’s hopefully not true every day. . . but it was certainly true that day. Those thoughts can be debilitating, but they don’t have to be. And, as God‘s cherished children, we know it should never be. However, we are all subject to failing and falling . . . and so some days, it is. debilitating. crushing. overwhelming.

 As Elisabeth said, “on days when I’m not a total train wreck, I take it to Jesus instead of 10 million other substitutionary devices that fill for a second and then drain me right back out again. This morning, I did take it to Jesus. 

Here’s what I said to him … What a cavernous wound that I can’t seem to get over. When will I learn to come to you; I mean really come to you? I am asking you, again, Jesus Christ, to fill my emptiness, to heal me and make me whole, again and again, to teach me to fully rely on you alone. I want to know you as my husband, my best friend, my one true love. Please do this in my heart and life. Please fix me and fill me.”

I believe this is the heart of the intent of the series, Falling, Living and Forever in Love with Jesus. The idea that Jesus Christ can fulfill the above longing in our hearts as believers, but particularly as women. It’s a question of intimacy – of knowing and being known, of being desired and pursued because we are valued. And, it’s the need to have Jesus remind us of all the things He has done in us and also continues to do in us, as we walk with Him. 

As Elisabeth said, “He [Jesus] already promises that he’s in me, that I have everything I need, that I am precious to him, that he pursued me before I knew him, that he’s especially close to those of us who are heart-broken, that he is my peace, my joy, that my Maker is my husband. So, he’s answered once and for all, and he does answer again and again.

And I know all of these things and I believe all of these things and I have experienced all of these things. But I’m human, I’m frail, I’m just a little girl (as a friend refers to herself during her vulnerable moments, even though she’s in her 50s). And I forget. I forget every single day what I’ve learned the day before.”

I too know and believe and have experienced all these things to be true. But, as that frail little girl sometimes looks in the mirror and, in a moment of vulnerability, is overwhelmed by the sting of being unloved, at least in a tangible way, of feeling unlovely and yes, dare I say it, unlovable – it’s on those days that I’m knocked down, dragged under the smothering wave of inadequacy.

It’s those days that I need to be reminded again, when I need to sit at the feet of the One who gave Himself for me. When I long for His healing hand and pray that His mercies are indeed new every morning and that there is room in His lap for me.

It’s these times that I remember, like Elisabeth, that this is only part of my story. And it does make me love my friends better and deeper. And it makes me pray harder for them and for me – that we might all have a better understanding of just how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ for us. That is worth being overwhelmed by.

“It’s the thing that compels me again and again back to Jesus, who knows and sees and understands and heals, and when I’m open, fills me.”  Thanks Elisabeth, I couldn’t have said it better myself.

You can read more of Elisabeth’s writings and check out some of her books at her website,  and find her blog online as well at


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From the Author of Romance

So I’m horribly behind on this blog. . . whoever thought this was a good idea . . . oh wait, that was me and I still believe it . . . just need to work on the follow-through.  True for many things in my life, not just this blog, but I digress.

I had wanted to write a post on Valentines Day, Single Awareness Day in some circles, celebrating the neverending, unconditional, forever kind of love that God offers to those who love Him, but I never found the time. Lucky for me, someone over at did.  In a wonderful article titled, “When Your Heart Longs to be Romanced,” Cindi McMenamin makes some interesting points about V-Day . . .  you’ll have to go here,, for her story.

[Inserting information about the author here -> Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and author of several books, including ‘Letting God Meet Your Emotional Needs’ and ‘When Women Walk Alone.’ For more on her Southern California-based ministry, see her website:]

But now, for the verses – read and hear the voice of God calling to you . . . 

He calls you unforgettable: “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! (Isaiah 49:15).

• He says He has always loved you and always will: “…I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness” (Jeremiah 31:3).

• He calls Himself your Husband: “For your Maker is your husband – the Lord Almighty is his name – the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. The Lord will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit…”  (Isaiah 54:5-6a).

• He says His love for you is greater than anything you’ll ever find on this earth: “Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). And then Jesus did just that — He laid down His life for you…one He calls “friend.” 

• He promises He’ll never leave you: “…Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5b). 

• He assures you in His Word that He has chosen you as His own: “For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight…” (Ephesians 1:4).

• He assures you in His Word that nothing will be able to separate you from His ever-pursuing love: “… neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:39).  

May you rest in the loving arms of your Savior, Redeemer, Healer, Coming King, Husband, Lover, Betrothed, the Author of romance.

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